It is rare to find a boss who can be your mentor too. If someone finds it, they are lucky.
Usually, superiors act quite aggressively in an organization’s interests to make things happen, and individual aspirations get sidelined. So people get frustrated in the process and resentment starts setting in. It is quite natural.
Here is what we can do. To find mentors outside your team, so you get perspective of what you are going through from a different angle, helping you to solve the problem better than it would be if you tried alone.
A mentor is someone who can offer you a perspective without instantly judging you yet give you a perspective where you need to modify your behaviors, without making you feel any lesser.
How to find one?
Seek intentionally. Be ready to put aside your judgemental antenna and appreciate the goodness in others and find some common ground, and become likable. They needn’t be domain specialists or even for that matter overachievers. They should be someone whom you can listen to openly and to whom you are not so judgemental.
Ask feedback, give updates, seek advice on specific things to someone who can understand your context.
Mentors are not always people who push you to do things you are not convinced about. They are people who offer clear perspectives by not being pushy. The idea itself offers you clarity and conviction.