You are looking down. Always. On your phone. Even when the love of your life is with you. Even when a friend is there whom you are meeting for many months or even a special team meeting where people have come from different locations just to see each other and connect.
You don’t get time to acknowledge their presence, appreciate their gesture.
More dopamine on phone leads to less attention to reality. More notifications mean less you are noticing outside. “Oh no, do not say like that, I really love them. It is just that I’m occupied on phone”, we say.
When you speak, look at their eyes. When you look at the phone and not at them, it simply means, I’m bored or I do not care. We use the phone as a tool to escape the slightest awkwardness or deviation from our expectation. Confront it. Like a leader. There are hidden gems in those moments to make others feel they are important. Do it. Like a leader.
You only want that 4 extra seconds to make the other person feel special.